Substance and Soul

My Happiness Equation

Samantha WetterholmComment

Wednesday, 16 October 2013

In today’s world of instant gratification and the ability to share every single thought with the world, it’s easy to get stuck in a woe-is-me downward spiral. I get it, people love to commiserate together. We constantly throw out our negative vibes and get stuck at the pity party. Well I have to say, NO THANK YOU. I’m done with participating in this notion that in order to bond with someone, you have to have share in life’s misery. 

Although I have tripped up at times, this past year I’ve been trying to dedicate myself to choosing happiness and focusing on the positive. I know that negative things happen in life, but I try to actively choose happiness in order to move forward and live fully. Here are a few little things that help me choose happiness when life gets complicated.


1 // A go-to drink at Starbucks. Although I love the holiday inspired drinks and treats from Starbucks, I always find comfort in my go-to grande, no water, soy, chai tea latte. A few sips in and I can calm my mind.

2 // A favorite classic book. It is so wonderful to curl up with an old favorite. I re-read Pride and Prejudice at least once a year and it always warms my heart. 

3 // A go-to outfit. It can get stressful staring into your closet with no idea what to wear. Having an outfit go-to takes the stress out of choosing and gives me confidence. I’m partial to dark skinnies, a colored blouse, and ballet flats. 

4 // A sense of gratitude. I can tell you that this one is a life changer. Be grateful for each moment of each day, for they are all gifts. Finding something to be grateful for, can make the gloomiest day just a little brighter. 

5 // A hobby or favorite activity. I love to scrapbook and bake goodies. I can go to my own little world while I bake a batch of cookies or make a homemade card.

6 // An accurate sense of self. Get real with yourself. Be honest about your abilities, your personality, and your goals. Love yourself - including the wonderful quirks that make you, you. 

7 // A go-to playlist. Music is transcendent, period. Make a playlist just for yourself, press play, and enjoy. 

8 // A couple of party tricks. It’s tough to sit in the corner in a crowd and watch the clock tick by and feel happy. Get up and mingle! Know what you have to offer and play it up. 

9 // A best friend. Paul is my best friend, but I’m also blessed with a handful of amazing friends. Having someone to talk to and confide in is very important. 

10 // An ability to laugh at yourself. Have a sense of humor. I’m a big nerd and I embrace it. My own nerdiness cracks me up.

What makes you happy? What is your happiness equation?