Home

Home bodies do have more fun

While the name of this blog is Substance and Soul, we sometimes find ourselves all out of both substance and soul and we are left with the good old-fashioned, everyday, normal, boring, pointless ramblings of one Samantha A-W.

You're welcome. Or I'm sorry.

The other name of the post could be "#motherhood" but I stopped myself. Self-control is sometimes a trait of mine. Then again I am currently working my way through a half pound of chocolate that I bought just yesterday, so self-control cometh and goeth.

And because a good handful of my posts from the past weekish have not been all rainbows and sunshine, I thought I'd throw a few of the better moments over here at headquarters at your eyeballs.

Because we're happy.

One of Emma's favorite activities as of late is painting. Or "paaaaaaaay" as she calls it. However it is also an activity that gives me quite the eye twitch and certainly an activity that requires hawk-eye attention from the fun-hating mom. Messes and Samantha do not mix. Or clutter. Or dust bunnies. Wait, where was I?

Oh yes, but when I finally cave and let my little Em Gough have at it, I am always tickled by the results. And for the most part she keeps messes to a minimum but I did find a few dollops of green/brown evidence splattered across her play area. Somehow. 

I did discover these bath paints that also happen to be soap (I love you Target dollar section) so I'll throw those in with her nightly bath and I feel less guilty when she re-grouts the tile with neon green goodness.

At my 16 weeks update a couple of weeks ago, I complained that I had not been feeling the second trimester bliss quite yet. But what a couple of weeks will do for the mood and for the body, I'll tell ya. My appetite is up. I want all the foods. I am less stomach achy and throw upy. And the little peanut is doing some serious acrobatics in there which gives me all the warm and fuzzies. 

I have been craving certain beverages of the adult variety, but alas, I have to abstain. So far virgin bloody marys in the morning and decaf tea (with cookies) in the afternoons have been my jam.

Mmmm, the jammiest.

And so future Emma doesn't think that all I did was complain about her lack of sleep, I must present some of the better motherhood moments from the past few days. 

It's these moments that make the hard ones seem less hard. It's that special smile, that hilarious giggle, and those toddler things that make my heart swell. 

Let the mom fawning commence.

I made Swedish pancakes for dinner the other night and it was one of the best dinners we've had in a while. We all crowded in the narrow kitchen and ate pancake after pancake as they came hot off the skillet. I prefer butter and powdered sugar. He prefers butter, powdered sugar, AND syrup. She prefers almond butter and banana. It was one of those perfect evenings. So simple yet so sweet. When she was getting full, I gave her a baby wipe and told her that she could wipe her hands and face when she was done. She then proceeded to use a half-eaten pancake with a gooey almond butter center AS HER NAPKIN. Paul and I just stared. Then cracked the bleep up. 

Good try. 

A very bubbly bath was drawn immediately after this dinner was completed.

When the weather is cooperating, we go on walks to burn off some of the cabin fever (or the calories from the seventh pastry that I consumed that week, but whatever). We like to play this game called collect the sticks. Our front yard is currently strewn with the winners because this mom does not bring nature into the house. Unless it's a tiny succulent, then I'm all game. 

Emma likes to call them "stiiiiiiiii" (rhymes with glee, coincidence? I think not).

About once per week, Emma and I like to go on a lunch date out of the house (no dishes! no clean up!). It's usually somewhere quick like the IKEA bar or Panera but she is a hoot and a half when it comes table manners.

Note the elegant paper napkin shoved in her neckline. 

She is apparently a fan of see food.

(Bad mom joke winky face.)

And to top it off, this morning she quietly (an anomaly for Emma badger) sat in her corner and read -- proudly wearing her favorite accessory (rain boots) and pointing to her favorite animals. 

She slept in her bed all night long last night and took at 2.5 hour nap yesterday, so my good mood may have something to do with that. Sleep may be my favorite pastime. Actually, food is. Sleep is second. Well third, wine is up there. 

Never mind.

See we're all normal here. 

Kind of.

Catch you on the flip side. You know where to find me. 

 

Weekends are for whatever

Things are starting to feel more, dare I say it, normal here at headquarters.

Whatever normal means anyway.

But between the deathly gag fest that has been my life since the beginning of December and the betrayal of a formerly beloved organ, things have not felt normal in a long while. Life with a toddler can often be anything but normal, but we had our routines, our weekend outings, our family meals, our chores (which I don't hate), and our fun. It was our normal and I was a huge fan.

This weekend was what I would call normal. And I am all smiles again. Well except when someone vomited on the floor after gagging herself with her hand. She has yet to fess up to that crime. What is the toddler sign for "don't look at me"?

On Fri(day), Emma and I did our daytime things. We played, we crafted, we read, we watched some TV, we ate, we napped, and it was a grand old time. We anxiously awaited the arrival of the favorite parent (dadadadadadada). And at about 4pm I got a text. 

Paul: Want to go to Disney Frozen on Ice at Oracle in a suite?
Samantha: IS THAT EVEN A QUESTION.
Samantha: YES.

Paul's coworker, aka my new favorite person, offered us a handful of tickets. We invited our neighbors too and we were off. Between two toddlers and four adults, I was definitely the most excited. I sang along with all the songs. Loudly. And proudly.

YES I WANT TO BUILD A SNOWMAN.

We had a lazy Saturday morning and I took the longest shower of my life. Mid-morning, Paul went to tennis practice and Emma and I enjoyed the sunshine. Februly is my new favorite month. We took a long walk and she scooted on her new favorite vehicle. I set up the kiddie pool and took far too many photos of her new swim suit (that we are both obsessed with). She splashed, she played, and I enjoyed a cold beverage. 

She had some lunch in a muffin tin (suddenly her foods cannot touch, OR ELSE). After her nap, we played hide and seek. 

OH MY where is the baby? 

After an early and light dinner, we took a gorgeous sunset walk downtown. I consumed the best ice cream cone of 2016 and decided that if dentistry doesn't work out, I would like to own a chain of ice cream stores. I bought a much anticipated cookbook that came out last week and I have been rolling on the floor laughing reading it. Chrissy can write. And she can cook. I would eat ANY of the recipes in the book. Any day. 

After church on Sunday, we did some errands and learned (yet again) that Sunday at 10:45am is the WORST time to go to Trader Joe's. Live and learn. Except we don't learn. So live and wait in long lines. Patience abounding. 

We spent the rest of our Sunday just spending time together. I took another nap and watched the Oscars. I cried when Leo won (much deserved, FINALLY). And the little one did not fight bed time. 

Things are looking normal 'round here. And I am a happy camper.

Kitchen helper

First post of two-thousand sixteen! WHAT.

I purposely did not do a resolutions post or a big here are my goals for 2016 announcement this year. This is mostly because I wanted to put my thoughts into action and commit to my main goal this year. (I guess I am announcing my goal for this year. Um, moving on.)

This year my goal is simple: Stay Present

Present with my thoughts. Present with my intentions. And present with my family. I am putting this into action in various ways and maybe I'll be more specific about it later. But then again, maybe not. 


If you follow me on Instagram, you would know how much Emma loves to cook and clean. Mostly, she just loves being around me and doing what I am doing. The other day I was making calzones and Emma just had to be in on the action. She handed me ingredients and helped me with every step of cooking. It melted my heart. 

Patiently awaiting the fruits of her labor.

Now for your viewing pleasure, here is a little video of Emma's kale help.

I hope she always wants to help us around the house. 

Happy Monday!

While you were away

Sweet husband of mine, 

When you get home from work, you usually find me on opposite ends of this spectrum...

Either I quickly and with great exuberance regale you with every fully formed and/or inkling of a thought that crossed my mind throughout the day (and bombard you with a breakdown of every goings on in our home). Or I want nothing to do with human speech and hand off the squirming and screaming tot to your open arms, shove earphones in my head, and baby gate block myself into the kitchen to cook in peace with absolutely no interruptions.

Assuming I am in the mood of the former, here are a handful of some thoughts and observations I have made while you are busy bringing home that bacon.

1. You are a generous man and know the way to my heart (spoiler alert, it's wine). Your impromptu gift of half a dozen wine varieties this weekend was a welcome surprise.

2. I find Emma's tantrum both frustrating and hilarious. While I don't enjoy having to heave a kicking and screaming tot into her stroller, when she throws herself on the ground in the most dramatic fashion or runs to the door to wait for her dad's arrival to tattletale on me I have to laugh. Does that make me weird?

3. Our daughter is at an interesting imitation phase. That, combined with wanting to do things herself make for some entertaining toddler moments. She MUST put on her own pants no matter how many tries it takes. She MUST drag our giant down comforter from our bed to her own bed for nap time.

4. I have a deep love for trees. And I hope that me gawking at every single one of them while we take walks is endearing.

IMG_9087.jpg

5. I wish you understood why I read the same books over and over again. Yes, I know the story by heart. But there I go reading it again while I soak in the afternoon sun and guzzle ice water from my favorite cup. 

6. I have grown to love cooking, especially for you. Took me long enough eh? I apologize for years one and two of our marriage and my complete lack of creativity in the kitchen department. 

7. You only have eyes for her and me. And I'll love you forever for it. You never notice when a woman shamelessly flirts with you in my presence. You walk right past the gourmet dinner I cooked for you because your eyes have searched only for mine. You scream, "there's my girl" when Emma runs to greet you at the door.

Love,

Me.